This past weekend I was given the opportunity to go to Dallas with my team of coaches for a leadership conference led by Dani Johnson. First of all, if you don’t know who she is, you really should. This woman is amazing! She started from literally nothing. Her parents were drug addicts, she left her home then became homeless, a slut, a drug addict herself, but eventually heard a voice in her head that told her that she needed to turn her life around. And she is now a multimillionaire, deep in her Christian faith, and a very successful businesswoman with the tools you need to not only grow a great business, but also within yourself and in your relationships. She tackles the war on debt and different personality traits. I learned a lot this weekend. I cried a lot this weekend. And I can’t wait to go back again to pick up on new things.
So Friday afternoon, my coach, Skate, and another coach on her team, Sam, and Sam’s penguin, JoJo, (#TeamFearless) picked me up and we carpooled all the way to Dallas. Skate and I have known each other since high school, but it was the first time I had met Sam in person. It was awesome how quickly we clicked and bonded the whole 4-ish hours there. We got Chipotle for dinner, then headed back to the house to wait for the other 9 people in our team to get there. (#TeamGenuine) That night we all had some drinks, bonded as team, and got ready for the long weekend that we had ahead of us. It was the first time most of us had met in person.
Saturday morning came so fast! We had stayed up till well over 1 am, we had to be there around 7:30 to sign in, we were about 20 minutes away from the hotel the event was being held at, and there were 12 of us in a house sharing 2 bathrooms… Fun times! But, really, if you know me, you know that I am the COMPLETE opposite of a morning person. Saturday morning, Dani dug a knife into my gut and turned it around and around and around. I’m not going to tell you everything she said, because you really need to go and experience it for yourself. She has seven steps to success, and there were two that stood out to me the most. The first one was to lose your ego… blame, being a know-it-all, pride, fear, staying in your comfort zone, people pleasing, jealousy , over critical of yourself, and the list goes on and on. I have several of these and the one I use the most is being too critical of myself. Am I doing this right? Why did I say that? Do I look okay? What will they think if I…? The second one was forgiveness. You need to let go of the bitterness of the unforgiveness because it is the root of your fears and lack of self esteem and forgiving is like hitting your reset button. Y’all. I broke down in tears. Like literally ugly crying. But it felt good to finally get down into why I am the way I am. I didn’t have the best childhood growing up. We did have good times, great times, don’t get me wrong, but we also had bad ones too. I’m not going to go into details, but I talked to my dad today and forgave him for those things and am excited to build a better relationship between us. Y’all as soon as I said that, it was like a weight lifted off my shoulders, and I could breathe again. I’ve never felt so free. After that morning session, I paid for the recording of the weekend because if the rest of the conference was going to be as good as that morning, I knew I needed it. We took a break for lunch and I had time with Skate and Sam to talk about what had just happened. Team Fearless really grew together and got to know each other on a deeper level over the weekend. Thankfully this was the heaviest session of the conference. I had run out of tears.
Saturday afternoon was more about how to grow your business and ways to make your company more profitable. That night when it was all over Our whole big group met up in the lobby of the hotel and talked together as Team Genuine, who is led by Nicole, Skate’s coach, and our high school band director. We talked for a while before Sommer came down and talked to us. Sommer is the leader of Team Courage. Our team is a part of this team. Sommer is waaaaay successful in this business and we all look up to her. It was really good to be circled around her for our little 12 person team, in person, for an hour or so just asking her questions and hearing everything she had to say. After that we went out to eat and headed out to eat and back to the house for some more Team G time before finally going to bed.
Sunday morning, I was not ready to get up. I was kind of in my own personal daze, thinking about what Dani had said the morning before. I was trying to get my stuff together because we were leaving that evening from the hotel, and I left stuff there! I had about a million things running through my head. Sunday morning Dani tackled the war on debt and I got great ideas to help get Dustin and I out of our $23,000 ish worth of debt. I’m going to work on that as soon as I’m done writing this blog. I’m not going to spoil the event for you, but as soon as she said, “Let’s see where your money is going. Close your eyes and go into your kitchen. How many different things do you have just for breakfast?” my mind was BLOWN! Now, Skate and Sam had been to this before so they knew what was coming and were just watching me, waiting for my reaction. They started laughing when my eyes basically popped out of my skull as I started thinking about the pop tarts, lucky charms, frosted flakes, pancake mix, oatmeal, breakfast bars, eggs, bacon, eggo waffles… YOU GUYS!!! That’s probably like $20-30 there. Then she was like ok ladies, let’s go into your closet… NOPE!!! Let’s leave that door shut. Naturally, all the guys started laughing and she said, don’t worry we’re going to the garage next. That shut them up real quick. She brought up 167 people on stage. Collectively, they have paid off $25 million in debt using her steps. How crazy is that?! I’m kind of scared to go through our bank statements. We’re just two people. Where is all this money going?
Sunday afternoon, she talked about the 4 personalities that people have. She came up with a personality test and she calls them your gems. Everybody has a little bit of all 4 in them. Ruby, Sapphire, Pear, and Emerald. I am a pearl sapphire, and Dustin is an emerald pearl. It was funny when she was going over the different personalities, I was like yep… check… mhmmm… yes, whether it related to me or Dustin. After that, Skate, Sam, Nicole, her husband Patrick, and I went downstairs and talked and got to know each other better. That was really needed. I hadn’t gotten to really talk to Nicole in a long time or Patrick ever. Nicole took her knife and twisted it into me again and got me to dig deeper into why I signed up for this whole coaching biz in the first place, and I love her for it. It’s time for me to get serious with where I’m going in this.
All in all, it was a great weekend and totally worth the money to go.